Maybe you’ve got circles under your eyes so black you look like you just came from a football game–time to show your date just how sexy you can look in sunglasses. There are millions of things you can do for your partner–from helping them have better relationships with their family and friends, to teaching them about having career goals or handling money and investing, to being a solid parenting partner or emotional caregiver. You will probably end up puking in the back seat of his car.You’re not the only one with problems, so start looking for places where you can apply yourself as the solution. Don’t pretend like you’re cool, and then turn around and dry heave into your handbag (I have mastered this by the way.) Don’t agree to go to a rock concert when you have a migraine and don’t agree to eat hibachi when you’re on an all-liquid diet. Better to out yourself and your condition early and avoid the consequences.When you first start off you’re going to be uncomfortable.You’re going to feel weird and probably awkward doing things like the rules I have listed in this book; which are going to be completely foreign to your regular approach on life.If they don’t want to go out with you after learning you have Crohn’s, Lupus, whatever–then that’s that. You have to be understanding of people when it comes to your chronic disease.Understand that their first reaction probably will be “what the fuck? People can sense your uneasiness about your disease.
These 41 rules (in no particular order) have just about everything you’ll ever need to develop that successful and impressive dating life you’ve always wanted.Because if you think you won’t need to be brave after the first date: you’re wrong. From braving that first kiss to braving the first argument. Sometimes you’ll want to do something with your significant other and it just won’t work out because your body is fighting back. And even though on the surface it might mess with your emotions and make for a less-than-great day–it doesn’t have to make for a less-than-great relationships. ” I stopped, thought and responded something that I still stand by: You’re not just a person who is chronically ill.So be brave and remember that you (hopefully) don’t live in Antartica where there are only five men and you have to share them with all the other women in the tribe. Sure, the first few times it’s okay to be frustrated–embarrassed even, to fumble over your apologies and stress out that they’ll be upset. You are a person, and you happen to also be chronically ill. You are so much more than an illness, and when you stop thinking of yourself in that box–others will too.If that is what you seek you shall not find it here.Look elsewhere if you’d like, but beware of anyone offering such a claim. Instead, I offer a great and comprehensive list of some of the best techniques for acquiring and developing a more attractive and desirable dating life.